I use my practice to get out of my own way.
My coach Shelli asks me to meet my husband each morning anew. That when I cover him with imagined Post It note labels of who I think he is and how I think he should be, I don’t actually experience him. Just my idea of him.
Am I great at this? No, I’m not. But I’m learning. Do I still have moments where I wish he was different? That I was? For sure. It’s part of being human and in relationship. But the practice, whether it’s happening in a coaching session or one yoga mat, is where I return to reflect and work to change what isn’t working for me, for us. We aren’t perfect, by any stretch of the imagination, and we don’t need to be. All that matters is being in the work. Together.