a new decade
September has arrived. And it’s my favorite month — Virgo season, back to school vibes and some chilly, almost fall, mornings and eves.
And this September 9th, I turn 40.
I’ve been waiting to be 40 since a teen. Ridiculous, I know, but fully true. I remember my mom, and every other wise woman I’ve met, tell me their forties were their favorite. More self love, less space for bullshit, more humility, less insane expectations. And that’s exactly what I’m calling in.
I’ve been doing some journaling on this over the past month and decided to revisit my values. I wanted these values to be a bit more aspirational, but fully attainable. I wrote about the woman I want to be for myself, for my son, for our family, for the world.
The questions I asked ——
What kind of energy do I want to bring forth?
What am I done with?
What do I want more of?
What am I committed to?
What kind of woman do I want to be?
What kind of woman do I want Angel to remember?
And now the values I explored.
Rhythm and Flow —
This one is all about finding my own rhythm and pace to move through the world at. Not the one that society asks of me but the rhythm and cadence that puts me in my flow. Slow and steady is the name of my game, with some major spontaneity and fun thrown in.
Soulfulness and Smile Lines —
I used to sit in front of my mom’s makeup mirror and crinkle my eyes hoping to get smile lines like my dad, whose beautiful lines stretch all the way to his hairline. So more of that. A soulful life, filled with color and vibrancy and deep feels and hairline smile lines.
True Connection ——
As a Generator in Human Design, my way to know that I’m on the right track is a feeling of satisfaction. I want satisfaction and true connection in my relationships. Nothing less. And notes to Self: you get what you give, show up for those you love in a big way and quality over quantity, always.
Commitment —
I love this photo so much because it is a reminder of how commitment shifts you and changes you. Committing to foster care, to our beautiful son, the my own growth.
Another aspect I want to call in is major accountability. I do what I say I will do. First and foremost for me, so that I keep my word to myself, honor what I need and know I will always have my own back. Then I can show up so fully for my family then community.
Discovery —
There’s nothing that makes my heart happier than exploring a new neighborhood, hiking trail, idea or book. More of that, please.
Sincerity —
Show up as you. Unabashedly, Wholeheartedly. Love the light and dark parts of yourself. Embrace and love your shortcomings and quirks. And as my shirt above says on the front “Do no harm” and on the back “But take no shit.”
